Years ago, I heard about a transsexual where I work. She worked way on the other side of the plant, so I never ran into her, besides I am not out at work. She was transitioning at work and her name had been changed in the plant seniority list. I would watch her name to see if she happened to be working in an area near me.
One day I saw the she had gone back to Dean when it had been Deana. I was quite surprised. Also I saw that she (there I mixed the pronoun by accident) was working in the same area that I was. So I was determined to find her and introduce my self. I some how spotted her one day and went up to him with a picture of myself en femme cupped in my hand. I asked, "are you Dean?" He said yes, so I said "this is a picture of my alter ego." and showed him my picture. He in return gave me the biggest smile I had seen in a while. I gave him the picture which had my email address. I gave him a "T-Girl" hug right there in the isle. Later I wondered how many people saw that hug. I work as a guy so hugging in the isle could be considered quite inappropriate. I really did not care. I had finely met this T-Girl. We are now great friends and we go out for beers and an appetizer on Fridays.
Long story short, when I talk about Dean, who I thought of as Deana for years, but I have only seen as Dean, I still mix up the pronouns. We use the pronouns that we first used it seems. I do correct my mistakes quickly though. So go easy on your friends, if they are trying. You have my permission to give them "hell" if they are not.
Thursday, February 08, 2007
I posted this in Tabitha's blog: