Transgender Warning: Transgender stuff to follow!

Transgender Warning: Transgender stuff to follow!
There are now hundreds of articles, neat pictures and videos here, that are mostly trans* related.

Thursday, March 27, 2008

Namoli Brenette sing Thorn In Your Side in this video

Google Alerts did it again for me. I found this post on Susan Norfleet's Fair Lady blog. She had some links that lead me to a upcoming movie HEARTLAND USA, then qWaves, which has the video below which has Namoli's song that was in Susan's blog.

Brennet’s music is featured in the upcoming documentary film Heartland USA, from the husband and husband team of Joe Wilson and Dean Hamer ( Some other great people you should know about. Wow … I feel like Army Archerd! I mean Perez Hilton!

Just follow some of those links and enjoy!

Tuesday, March 25, 2008

SiteMeter Stastics

The SiteMeter icon this page is used to collect information on what pages people visit on my blog. It says I got hits on the following pages today. It seems that the page about Mirha-Soleil Ross & Mark Karbusicky is the most popular by a long shot. Digging deeper it seems that Google Images has the above picture listed from my post about them. It seems that a lot of people enjoy or are at least interested in finding out more about a woman with a penis. And I thought it was all the great stuff I had collected was making this seem so popular. [sigh]

Here is the data from SiteMeter:
2 unknown
2 Williams

Monday, March 24, 2008

Kids Of Trans at

If you have questions or would like more information about the COLAGE Kids of Trans Program, please contact Monica Canfield-Lenfest, Kids of Trans Fellow, at or 415-861-5437 x104.

Please pass this along to other people of all ages with one or more transgender parents or guardians.

I met a young woman at SCC a few years ago from the Chicago Colage. She was there with her two dads. At least one of them was trans and also a presenter. Thank you Donna for this video, and reminding me about Colage.

Thursday, March 20, 2008


Who ever made these videos did a remarkable job. There is one more in the post below this one.

Rainbow Connection

In Memory of Lawrence King

This is sung by my favorite Hawaiian singer Israel Kamakawiwo'ole. I can not pronounce his name but I sure love his music. Too bad he died so young.

Famous LGBTQ Folk

I just found this at Helen Boyd's forum. You will probably have to sign in for that link below to work. Thanks go to Diana Lynn for the post.

Thursday, March 13, 2008


Here is a fun interview with a local drag queen and friend Kimmie Satin. I met her at Play and The Chute. Here Valerie Reynolds interviews her at Trax before a show. It is good to here she is still in town.

After the Kimmie's interview Valerie interviews me (oh boy,) Linday, Susan Brown and Marisa Richmond about TEP's Day On the Hill.

February 22, 2008...4:20 pm

Here’s the latest episode of AVALON FARMCAST…enjoy!

kimmie satin

Show Notes: On this show I sat down with Kimmie Satin before a Nashville Drag Show. A former Miss Tennessee and with 25 years on the Drag Show circuit, Kimmie shares tips, political thoughts and stories from the stage. We covered topics from family and community to Gay Pride and Stonewall.

Also, Tennessee Equality Project held a reception at The Tribe the night before Equality Day on the Hill. Emily and I attended both events and I spoke with several folks there.

Music on the show is a brand new song from Jill Sissell with The Paint Sisters!

Peace and Love,

Note: download the show in itunes, listen on the site or copy and paste the direct link below in your browser

mp3 file direct link:

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

One Thing To Say

Callan Williams put this in a recent blog post. It reminds me that we should not be too hard on the beginners, and the crossdressers. As Linda Bedore told me when I was laughing at some crossdressers at last year's spring Getaway en Femme. "... remember they feel the same way we do!" Thanks Linda for setting me straight. I needed I needed that.

Reply to a list post:

What’s my one message about trans that I would like to get out?


Every time you see someone express transgender, they are expressing something they know to be true about themselves in the best way they know how to do it.

No matter how dramatic or cartoony or contradictory or ambiguous or factually false someone’s trans expression may seem to you, no matter how that expression is laced with shame, self-loathing, and defensive rationalizations, it is an expression that comes from deep inside of them. And only by being affirmed in that expression can they find deeper meanings, become more mature in their self knowledge & expression. If they feel repressed, they will remain clouded and confused in their understanding and their choices.

Every time you see someone express transgender, they are expressing something they know to be true about themselves in the best way they know how to do it.

That’s the one thing I want people to know.

The Pink Dress

Marisa sent this to her little group.

Thanks, Marissa!

The Pink Dress

Young Sam demands to wear a dress to school, forcing his parents to make a decision: protect him from ridicule or cultivate his self-expression?

By Sarah Hoffman

pink boys

At seven o'clock on a Thursday morning, my 4-year-old son announced, "I'm going to wear a dress to school today." I froze, teacup halfway to my lips. I shouldn't have been entirely surprised by the statement, given Sam's history on the pink side of the dress-up box, but this time something was different.

The previous weekend, Sam and I had visited his grandma in Malibu. Looking to cool down after a sunny playground romp, the three of us had wandered into a high-end children's boutique. While his grandma and I snickered over rhinestone-encrusted Converse sneakers and $600 infant sweaters, Sam was drawn to a frilly pink sundress. "Can I have it?" he asked.

I blinked at him. Trying to keep things light, I told Sam the dress was not his size. He dropped his chin to his chest, big blues fixed on me. "Well, are there dresses in my size?" he asked shyly. I paused, trying to decide what to say. "Boys don't wear dresses" came to mind, but that wasn't true—Sam had always loved trying on his girl friends' princess costumes. "I'm not going to buy you a $270 dress from this ridiculous store" also came to mind, but that didn't address the point—his or mine. He would be asking the same question about a $7.99 sundress at Target, and I'd still be wondering why my boy wanted to wear one—and why, really, he couldn't. As I steered him out of the store, Sam started to weep. "I wish I had a pink dress!" he wailed.

"But sweetie," I said in my best calm, concerned mommy tone, "you have two pink dresses. Your princess dress-up costumes are both pink."

"But I want one I can wear to school!"

At 4, Sam has been expressing his preference for pink for half his life. My husband and I have bought him several pink items that fall in the sort-of-odd-but-socially acceptable range: pink Converse sneakers (hold the rhinestones), pink T-shirts, and—our most risqué to date—a hot pink polo shirt. His grandparents gave him a pair of pink light-up Skechers that he adores. The dress-up box at home overflows with pink tulle, lace, and marabou feathers.

But for public appearances, my husband and I realize that certain things—hair accessories, flowery clothing designs, dresses—are on the other side of a line we haven't been quite willing to cross, one that sits right between eccentric-but-cute and is-that-a-boy-wearing-that? We have tried to find a comfortable place on the near side of the line where Sam can express himself without inviting ridicule, and we knew that a pink sundress would go beyond that. But it was starting to look as if Sam was no longer happy within the narrow parameters we'd established to protect him.

Next Page: "Is This a Phase?"

I'd wanted to think that this was just a phase for Sam, but I was beginning to understand that it was not. My son wanted to wear a dress—for real, not for dress-up. He wanted to show the other children in his life, in preschool—the place where he expresses himself publicly—his true self. The pink-sundress-wearing self. And I was going to have to figure out what to do.

I am a woman who rarely puts on a skirt or heels, and I was a kid who preferred overalls to frills. The part of me that thinks outside of the gender box looks at Sam and thinks he should wear whatever makes him feel most comfortable and beautiful. And yet ... I am his mother, and my fiercest urge is to protect him. I know that boys who look and act like girls get tormented, beaten up, and beaten down. A dress on a boy feels like an invitation to mockery.

My husband and I didn't know whether Sam was ready to wear a dress to school—or if we were ready for him to. We wondered if learning to fit in with the other boys was more important than expressing the real Sam. Yet we knew that our attempts to steer him toward the masculine were not working, and that he was becoming increasingly resistant to wearing boy clothes in general. More important, we knew that denying his desire to look the way he wants would quash a part of him and make him unhappy, probably in a more fundamental way than we even understood.

So I bought him a dress, a $10 pink embroidered sundress from Old Navy. I did not decide if it would be okay for him to wear it to school, because I was not ready to decide. I figured he could try it out at home and see how he felt. How we felt.

Sam's declaration that he would wear the dress to school saved us, in a way, from having to make a decision. He had already made up his mind. I warned Sam carefully that if he wore it, he would probably get teased. He was undeterred, adamant about wearing the dress; clearly, avoiding teasing was a lower priority for Sam than simply being himself. I could see that standing up for his choices in a relatively safe and supportive environment was a useful life lesson. And it occurred to me that having confidence—being proud of who he is, even if he's different from other kids—is the best defense against the inevitable ridicule.

Next Page: Handling Teasing

So we coached Sam, as best we could, on what to say to the children at preschool who might tease him. We role-played the kinds of things he could say back to them. We talked about how much teasing can hurt, and how teasing is wrong.

At that morning's drop-off, my confidence in Sam moved up a notch when he announced to his teacher, "Look at my pretty dress! No one is allowed to make fun of me."

After school, Sam beamed as he reported that his teachers had said they liked his dress, and the other 4-year-olds had said he looked pretty. But the kids in the 5-year-old class had teased him and told him that he was "girly," that "boys can't wear dresses," and that he "must not be a boy."

"What did you say back?" I asked, hiding my trepidation behind an encouraging smile.

"I said, 'Don't make fun of me! I can be a boy and wear a dress, because it is my choice!'"

I couldn't have said it better. I asked Sam how he felt about his day in a dress, and he said, "I want to wear a dress to school again!"

And how did I feel about the experiment? Well, next week is tie-dye week at school. The class parent in charge of ordering the clothes (T-shirts for the boys, dresses for the girls) called to ask if I wanted a T-shirt or a dress for Sam. Touched by her thoughtfulness, I thought I would give Sam the same consideration she had, so I let him decide.

It looks like there will soon be two dresses in Sam's closet.


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