Coming Transgender Events:

Coming Events:

41. First Event 2007 Wed 17-Jan-2007
42. Colorado Gold Rush Thu 22-Feb-2007
43. California Dreamin’ 2007 Thu 19-Apr-2007
44. Eureka! Getaway Wed 25-Apr-2007
45. Esprit 2007 Sun 13-May-2007
46. Be-All 2007 Tue 29-May-2007

My Celebrity Look-alikes

http://www.myheritage.com

I am finely up to a 7.2 at "Hot or Not"

Listen to Kevin Reevees' "Afraid and Alone" on MySpace

I love this song!

Listen to "Afraid and Alone" by Kevin Reevees on his MySpace page:

http://www.myspace.com/kevinreevesmusic.

I heard it on Controversial Conversations #005 podcast, and loved it immediately.

Here is his website where you can get mp3's of his songs. http://www.kevinreeves.net/ He emails them out after you order them.

He wrote me the following:

I play every Friday and Saturday night at the Flying Horse in Franklin, Tennessee from 6-30 to 8-30 P.M., and will begin playing on Wednesday nights at Big Tony's in the food Lion plaza in Nashville from 7 to 9 P.M.

I hope to make it to one of his shows soon, but my work schedule gets in the way.

Does anyone know who these girls are?

There was so much controversy about these two girls. I sure could tell they were in love with each other, but so many could not agree about there gender. I was told by someone who had dinner with them that the one on the left is TS and the other is GG, but not many agreeded.

I took their picture and gave them my card with my email address, so I could send them the picture, but still no reply.

Write me you two. I think you were so great now matter what gender you are. I say you both are women!

I met finely Renee Reyes

I wrote her earlier this year to introduce myself:

I saw you at last year's SCC and all I could do is stare. You looked so great. It is not that often that I see some one that I have seen and read their website. I think you realized that I was too shy to introduce myself. You squeezed my hand one time, as I walked by at one of the dinners. I have to thank you for that. Probably it was at the dinner where I took the one picture, I got of you. I am too shy to impose myself on folks and ask to take their picture. Then later I always regret not taking the picture. I hope to do better this year.

She wrote back and remembered me when I saw her at SCC and insisted we take this picture. Thanks Renee (and sorry about the red eye!)

Sharing Album - 2006 Southern

Sharing Album - 2006 Southern

http://www.flickr.com/photos/vickiedavis/sets/72157600361875048

Edit note: 8/24/2007 I fixed the link after I moved my Yahoo pictures to flickr.

"Dear Mr. President" (Pink featuring Indigo Girls)

I heard this song on the Tranny Wreck pod cast, and bought it on iTunes right away. It is powerful.

"Dear Mr. President"
(Pink featuring Indigo Girls)

Dear Mr. President
Come take a walk with me
Let's pretend we're just two people and
You're not better than me
I'd like to ask you some questions if we can speak honestly

What do you feel when you see all the homeless on the street
Who do you pray for at night before you go to sleep
What do you feel when you look in the mirror
Are you proud

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye
How do you walk with your head held high
Can you even look me in the eye
And tell me why

Dear Mr. President
Were you a lonely boy
Are you a lonely boy
Are you a lonely boy
How can you say
No child is left behind
We're not dumb and we're not blind
They're all sitting in your cells
While you pay the road to hell

What kind of father would take his own daughter's rights away
And what kind of father might hate his own daughter if she were gay
I can only imagine what the first lady has to say
You've come a long way from whiskey and cocaine

How do you sleep while the rest of us cry
How do you dream when a mother has no chance to say goodbye
How do you walk with your head held high
Can you even look me in the eye

Let me tell you bout hard work
Minimum wage with a baby on the way
Let me tell you bout hard work
Rebuilding your house after the bombs took them away
Let me tell you bout hard work
Building a bed out of a cardboard box
Let me tell you bout hard work
Hard work
Hard work
You don't know nothing bout hard work
Hard work
Hard work
Oh

How do you sleep at night
How do you walk with your head held high
Dear Mr. President
You'd never take a walk with me
Would you

ROMANCE MATHEMATICS

I got the following in an email.

ROMANCE MATHEMATICS

Smart man + smart woman = romance
Smart man + dumb woman = affair
Dumb man + smart woman = marriage
Dumb man + dumb woman = pregnancy
______________________________

OFFICE ARITHMETIC

Smart boss + smart employee = profit
Smart boss + dumb employee = production
Dumb boss + smart employee = promotion
Dumb boss + dumb employee = overtime
_____________________________

SHOPPING MATH

A man will pay $20 for a $10 item he needs.
A woman will pay $10 for a $20 item that she doesn't need.
_____________________________

GENERAL EQUATIONS & STATISTICS

A woman worries about the future until she gets a husband.
A man never worries about the future until he gets a wife.
A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend.
A successful woman is one who can find such a man.
_____________________________

HAPPINESS

To be happy with a man, you must understand him a lot and love him a little.
To be happy with a woman, you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all.
______________________________

LONGEVITY

Married men live longer than single men do, but married men are a lot more willing to die.
______________________________

PROPENSITY TO CHANGE

A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't.
A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does.
____________________________

DISCUSSION TECHNIQUE

A woman has the last word in any argument.
Anything a man says after that is the beginning of a new argument.
_____________________________

HOW TO STOP PEOPLE FROM BUGGING YOU ABOUT GETTING MARRIED
Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

SEND THIS TO A SMART WOMAN WHO NEEDS A LAUGH AND TO THE SMART GUYS YOU KNOW CAN HANDLE IT

I don't do chain letter like things, but this one is good, so I put it here.

I finely finished She's Not There.

I finely finished Jennifer Boylan's book, She's Not There, and I cried for Melanie. Melanie was the one who shared a room in the hospital with Jenny when they each got there SRS. Everything went wrong for her, and the reader did not get to find out what ultimately happend to her. As I finished the book, I forgot about Jenny and all I could think about was the horrible support she got in her live and how bad things were working out for her during the week she got her SRS.

I wrote in an email to a friend "We don't have to worry about "Golden girl Jenny" she will do just fine, but I worry about poor Melanie. "

Then I Googled for information on Melanie and Jennifer. I found a neat interview with Jenny where she said:

JB: But yeah, it’s worth saying as long as we are updating the record here that Melanie has landed on her feet. Her family has become much more accepting and she is engaged to be married in December and I am to be one of her bridesmaids. I think she is going to be fine.

RB: Are you looking forward to the wedding?

JB: Are you kidding? It’s going to be great.

RB: Do you like weddings?

JB: I have been a best man, now I’m going to be a bridesmaid. And I hope to write a piece about it for my next book. link

I was so glad to read that the Melanie story had a happy side. I still want to know more, but I feel a lot better.

The Push (far from here) by Steve Smith & Paul Jackson

I love this song. It just kills me though, I cry at this part!

Tell myself if I don’t change my ways
Never know the difference that it makes
If I don’t push myself to face my fears
I’ll never see a world that’s far from here

Don’t know where im going,
in a world that waits for me, yeah me…
Don’t know where im going,
to a world that waits for me…”

"In 2004 Jackson is set to release 'The Push (Far From Here)' vocal version, with Dirty Vegas' Steve Smith on vocals" link

Lyrics & Songs - www.lyrics-songs.com

Lyrics & Songs - www.lyrics-songs.com: "Aerosmith

Dude (Looks like a Lady)

Cruised into a bar on the shore
Her picture graced to grime on the door
She a long lost love at first bite
Baby maybe you're wrong, but you know it's all right
That's right

Backstage we're having the time
Of our lives until somebody say
Forgive me if I seem out of line
Then she whipped out her gun
Tried to blow me away

Dude look like a lady
Dude look like a lady
Dude look like a lady
Dude look like a lady

So never judge a book by it's cover
Or who you're going to love by your lover
Love put me wise to her love in disguise
She had the body of a venus
Lord imagine my surprise

Dude look like a lady
Dude look like a lady
Dude look like a lady
Dude look like a lady

What a funky lady
She like it like it like it like that
He was a lady

Baby let me follow you down
Let me take a peek dear
Baby let me follow you down
Do me, do me, do me all night
Baby let me follow you down
Turn the other cheek dear
Baby let me follow you down
Do me, do me, do me, sue me"

KELLY CLARKSON LYRICS - Because Of You

This song stopped me in my tracks and that was before I knew what the words were. Now it just makes me cry.

'Because Of You'

KELLY CLARKSON

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself
Cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did,
You fell so hard
I've learned the hard way
To never let it get that far

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I lose my way
And it's not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that's weakness in your eyes
I'm forced to fake
A smile, a laugh everyday of my life
My heart can't possibly break
When it wasn't even whole to start with

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

I watched you die
I heard you cry every night in your sleep
I was so young
You should have known better than to lean on me
You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain
And now I cry in the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don't get hurt
Because of you
I try my hardest just to forget everything
Because of you
I don't know how to let anyone else in
Because of you
I'm ashamed of my life because it's empty
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of you
Because of you

Barbara posted this in MTF-SRS-FTM

Reply-To: MTF-SRS-FTM@yahoogroups.com
To: MTF-SRS-FTM@yahoogroups.com
Date: Feb 23, 2006 10:30 AM
Subject: Re: [MTF-SRS-FTM] Hello Again

I was asked a question by two Tenn. State Legislators about being T/S. "Why is there so many different catagories" my answer was this---I beleive that your referring to being ransgendered. Which has several diffinitions with in it.

We as being in the T/S community know where the train will end up at (the final destination). We can get off at any point along the way and visit and then return to the train ride to the next stop. We may choose to stay at any stop where we feel comfortable, and return to the train ride at any time to the next stop if we so desire.

There are may reasons that we or some of us can never reach the final destination of full transition. There can be many reasons such as financial, medical, ect. This does not mean that we are not real T/S. For some of my sisters we grow into the knowledge and the reality of being T/S. As for myself I have known that I was a girl from the age of 6 years old. This does not make me more T/S than one of my friends who was born intersexed (both sex organs) or nother girl friend who has come to the realization that she is T/S. For most of my sisters we have to have a congruency between our brains and our bodies and must have the congruency know matter what the cost. Would you be willing to lose everything that you hold dear to your heart's and lives to be a whole complete person? We must all come to that point within our own lives.

Several of the State Legislators told me that they had never had a T/S in their office before. They asked me to please stop in and talk with them any time that I was in Nashville. Two gentlemen offered to take me to lunch and discuss these issues more fully at any time.

Yes I am a activist and yes I am out there, I try to not be in anyones face about my life. I do really like to try to educate people about the fact that we are human beings who live real lives, and that we are not what is seen on the Jerry Springer show.

I beleive that I helped a couple of the Tennessee State Legislators to realize that we are real human beings, with real lives, who are productive members of society, that we hold a relationship with our creator, and that we also vote.
This past Tuesday with the Equality Day on the hill was very enriching for me as a woman.

Just thought I would pass this along.

Hugs and be well,

Barbara Ann Ehrgott

I wish I had been there!

Cheney Shooting

I put the following in a PS to a friend:

How did Cheney get 200 pellets in his friend at 30 yards? And inside him far enough to irritate his heart enough to cause something like a heart attack.

We won't even think about the beers and the long delay in talking to the police.

Hummmm!

Cowboys Are Frequently Secretly Fond of Each Other lyrics.

Pansy Division and Willie Nelson sing:

There's many a strange impulse out on the plains of West Texas;

There's many a young boy who feels things he don't comprehend.

Well small town don't like it when somebody falls between sexes,

No, small town don't like it when a cowboy has feelings for men.



Well I believe in my soul that inside every man there's a feminine,

And inside every lady there's a deep manly voice loud and clear.

Well, a cowboy may brag about things that he does with his women,

But the ones who brag loudest are the ones that are most likely queer.



Cowboys are frequently secretly fond of each other —

What did you think those saddles and boots was about?

There's many a cowboy who don't understand the way that he feels towards his brother,

Inside every cowboy there's a lady who'd love to slip out.



Ten men for each woman was the rule way back when on the prairie,

And somehow those cowboys must have kept themselves warm late at night.

Cowboys are famous for getting riled up about fairies,

But I'll tell you the reason a big strong man gets so uptight:



Cowboys are frequently secretly fond of each other —

That's why they wear leather, and Levi's and belts buckled tight.

There's many a cowboy who don't understand the way that he feels towards his brother;

There's many a cowboy who's more like a lady at night.



Well there's always somebody who says what the others just whisper,

And mostly that someone's the first one to get shot down dead:

When you talk to a cowboy don't treat him like he was a sister

Don't mess with the lady that's sleepin' in each cowboy's head.



Cowboys are frequently secretly fond of each other —

Even though they take speed and drive pickups and shoot their big guns;

There's many a cowboy who don't understand the way that he feels towards his brother;

There's many a cowboy who keeps quiet about things he's done.

Tennessee Vals girls join this Yahoo! Group

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Fwd: Brini Maxwell is Podcasting for NPR

From: Vickie Davis
Date: Feb 6, 2006 8:32 PM
Subject: Fwd: Brini Maxwell is Podcasting for NPR

Hello girls,

I just got this in the mail today. Brini Maxwell is a "crossdresser" from New York City that has a TV show on the Style Network that is so funny.

She plays the host of a show giving advice on cooking and decorating etc. She outdoes most women in the femm department. Just amazing, and so low key and FUNNY. Too bad it is on hiatus right now.

http://www.brinimaxwell.com/

There is a sample podcast. I can hardly wait for more.

Hugs, Vickie

---------- Forwarded message ----------

From: Brini Maxwell <>
Date: Feb 6, 2006 5:58 PM
Subject: Brini Maxwell is Podcasting for NPR
To: brinimaxwell@aol.com

Hello people!


I'm happy to tell you that National Public Radio has signed me to do a weekly podcast!


The short recordings cover subjects as diverse as entertaining, hot baths and vintage shopping. Podcasts are the new wave in media content. They're on demand, downloadable recordings for your computer and mp3 player. You can get your weekly Brini Podcast fix, Fridays at 5pm, at http://www.npr.org/rss/podcast/podcast_detail.php?siteId=5183208. Once you set it up, your preferred podcasting tool software ( e.g. Odeo, iTunes, iPodder) should download each weekly installment automatically.


I hope you'll be joining me. We'll have lots of fun!


Best,

Brini

Who knew?

Here are a few of my "Hot or Not" double matches.

I finely put a new picture at "Hot or Not."

Why do men like big breasts?

I found this article in a breast enlargement site. LOL I did not buy the product advertized, but liked this page.

Why do men like big breasts?

It's a fact: people in America, and not just men, idolize big breasts. Every year, American women spend millions of dollars on breast implants, cosmetic procedures to improve their breasts, breast enlargement pills, pumps and creams.

Considering the role that big breasts play in our culture and society, the amount time, energy, money and emotion that goes into breast enlargement seems justified.

But why do men like big breasts? You may be surprised to learn that not all men like big breasts (and we're not talking about gay men) - that the male fascination with massive mammaries is relatively recent, and is a localized phenomenon.

Not all men like big breasts

"Beauty" and standards of what is attractive and what isn't is defined by culture. American culture and society currently idolize big breasts on tall, slender figures (a combination almost never found in nature).

Did you know that in Brazil, breasts take a backseat to a woman's butt? In this South American culture, pert and round buttocks are far more attractive to men than breasts.

But during the 16th century, big breasts were considered low-class. The kinds of knockers men drool over today would only be found on a wet-nurse back then. The standard belle in the 1700s would be considered overweight today - but back then, carrying a few extra pounds was a sign of wealth (that you got enough to eat). And these neoclassical beauties had relatively small breasts - a modest B cup at most.

Have you ever seen ancient Greek or Roman sculptures at the museum? You may recall that even the goddess of love, Aphrodite/Venus, wasn't burdened with cleavage. These ancient beauties were instead well-proportioned with breasts that fit their frames.

And it's not just breast size standards that change over time. Remember Michaelangelo's famous sculpture David? The reason the statue doesn't have a larger penis is because, in Renaissance Italy, having a big penis was a cause for embarassment. In that time and place, being over-generously hung was about as attractive as wearing a red clown nose.

Big breast fascination: an evolutionary perspective

Evolutionary biologists have discovered that a lot of the physical traits we consider attractive have a sound basis in genetics. Choosing the right mate obviously is a very important decision - so our genes have, over time, learned to help us out. We tend to find indications of health to be attractive. Signs of disease, malnutrition, or general unfitness are perceived as unattractive.

How does this explain the male fascination with big breasts? Well, it sounds like a reach, but here it is: humans are the only primates that have sex face-to-face. All other primates choose the front-to-back position. Human females are along among the primates in having large breasts even when not nursing. Evolutionary biologists theorize that large breasts look like a butt! Crazy as it sounds, all the evidence fits: all primates are turned on by butts - except people. Only humans have large breasts and mate face-to-face. Therefore, maybe big breasts evolved in imitation of buttocks.

Here's another explanation that's easier to believe: larger breasts indicate adequate stores of subcutaneous fat, which is a sign of health. Flat breasts may indicate a post-menopausal woman who is no longer able to have children and therefore not an ideal mate from the evolutionary perspective.

Is it all just marketing?

Some sociologists scoff at the evolutionary explanations offered above. They theorize that the American male fascination with big breasts is driven by the advertising and media machine.

Their explanation goes like this: children are exposed to seductive, sensual sexy advertising featuring busty female models. Children are taught to associate these images with arousal.

Fast forward: children are now adults. Marketers use the same types of images to attract their attention - and it works. So TV commercials, billboards and magazine ads perpetuate this big-breasted, sexy iconography. And children see it, too. Thus the cycle perpetuates itself.

Whether or not one agrees with any of these explanations of why men like big breasts, it's important to realize that the male fascination is real. People perceived as beautiful, on average, are promoted faster at work, where they make more money. They get better service. And they marry more attractive partners.

It's a tough time and place for women without big breasts.